<> ~huh, huh, decisions, decisions~ let me tell ya, it ain't easy being an adult. Being an adult requires alot of patience and major responsibilities, including parenting. Being a full-time employee and a part-time university student ain't very easy either (let me tell you!). But, hey, I chose this life and I'm committed to this type of life. Along with being married, is another thing, also being a full-time wife. I came across this article today re: relationships and why people get married; getting married to someone is not necessarily meaning that "we are both compatible", rather, it is "How much energy are we willing to give or sacrifice to make this relationship work?", the article also explained how "sprituallity" plays a huge role in every relationship, whether it be in marriage or a simple friendship. Without sprituality, we have no strength of endurance, and without strength of endurance, we are left with no strength to give and offer one's self to your significant other! Those are just my thoughts of the day. When I had gotten married this past summer, I anticipated nothing but joy and happiness, but I was wrong. Marriages are not only based on the great times of our lives; but marriage consists of flaws, failures, good times and bad. These past couple of weeks me and ron hold a huge gap b/w our marriage only because we had failed to do what maybe some couples out there do...failed to be friends first; instead we became lovers first and friends 2nd. I don't know what it is, but psychologically speaking I tend to sell myself really good when it comes to new relationships, then I tend to lose them due to the absence of friendship within the relationship. Sometimes most people are just built that way! I don't necessarily see this marriage as a failure, but I see this as a test; along with a learning process involved at the same time. Ron's 10-years older than me, and I'm 10-years younger than Ron. That shouldn't make a difference, however, being younger can consist of being a handful only because everything is coming at you when you least expect it; and that we don't have enough experience to encounter all the situations that get thrown our way. We are incapable of being capable. With the great gift of "patience" with one another I know that me and Ron have the energy to give and sacrifice ourselves to make this relationship work! And, hon, I know we'll both get over this. Just always keep in your mind, heart, and soul, that I do love you very much!!! *Lidivette* <> <!--1:55:00 PM-->
<> ~ah.....-46 degrees....crap, that's f*ckin' cold outside....man, this is beyond winter...this is the North Pole....Winnipeg's North Pole...great.... <> <!--5:59:00 PM-->
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